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August 21, 2019

Back to School, Back to Basics

When we break it down, practicing healthy habits is rather elementary. It can also seem rather complicated. Since school is back in session, I figured

August 15, 2019

The All or None Syndrome

Ever experience Pause Button Mentality? Perhaps during the holidays, your birthday, after vacation, when work gets crazy, or kids go back to school? H

August 8, 2019

Lessons from Nature, and Grounding

We must be moving into fall, as school supplies are in the sale ads. Didn’t summer vacation just get rolling? As I look around, I see many of my lil

August 1, 2019

Creative, Easy, Grilling Ideas

Summer is for taking it easy, and that includes mealtime. Lately, Mr. Non-Compliant and I have been playing with food. Our latest game: How much can w

July 18, 2019

Happy National Ice Cream Month

The year was 1984. President Ronald Reagan designated July as National Ice Cream Month and the third Sunday of July as National Ice Cream Day. This ye

July 11, 2019

How to Bok Choy

Summer is adventure time. With the abundance of various fruits and vegetables available at grocery stores and farmers markets, there is no reason to b

July 4, 2019

Relax and Enjoy

Welcome to the dog days of summer and simple eating. Unlike winter, when those crock pot soups and stews hit the spot, we are now in the season of lig

June 27, 2019

Atomic Habits

My current summer (now that it’s official!) read is “Atomic Habits” by James Clear. I’m working on improving a few of mine—slowly—one at a

June 13, 2019

Ten of My Best Tips

Q. What to blog about when I have too many ideas flying around my brain and I simply am not able to choose? A. Tips that cover a variety of topics, wi

June 6, 2019

The Joys of June…and Strawberries

Along with June come some fun celebrations. Besides the new season of life celebrated by many graduates (and parents, now free of tuition payments), a

Fitness Made Simple

When you boil it all down, getting fit is really very simple.

Here’s the secret:
Create a habit that leads you in the direction of improving your health and fitness level. Once you master it, add another one.  

Repeat. Continually.

Creating—and maintaining—your unique health and fitness program is a matter of mastering one good habit after another and stringing them together. Like popcorn.

This is also a great plan for your life.  

Simple.

So, why isn’t it working?

Some thoughts:

  • Feeling so overwhelmed, you don’t know where to begin
  • You’ve tried everything and nothing works
  • Friends and family members are not supportive, and you cave
  • There’s no time
  • You’re too busy
  • Your good intentions get waylaid by real life happening, over and over and over….
  • The weather is crummy
  • You hate to exercise
  • You hate to cook
  • And, a combination of any or all of these

In actuality, the reason you are not hitting your goals is this: YOU ARE NOT HONORING YOUR INNER AGREEMENTS.

You are not honoring your word with yourself.

Consider how you feel when you break your word with another human being. (If this has never happened, please share your secret!)

It’s not a good practice to break our word with others. It’s not a good practice to break our own inner agreements.

We all do. Perhaps you’ve never really thought much about it.

Until now.

Pay attention to the times that you give someone (even YOU) your word, and then don’t follow through.

An Exercise (relax, it’s not a physical exercise):
Write down your inner agreements and take them seriously. (Like: I am hitting the gym 3 times this week for at least 30 minutes; or, I am going to bed 30 minutes earlier most nights because I need more sleep.) When there’s a breakdown, acknowledge it, clean it up, forgive yourself, and move on.

This is not an exercise to make you feel bad. We’re doing this to get into the habit of integrity.

Honor your inner agreements as if you made them with your best friend, and see what happens.  

I’m happy to help you find clarity and create a plan to live your amazing life now. If you’re struggling with your weight, health, or keeping your inner agreements, it’s time to play the game of life as though it’s the only game that matters. Schedule your complimentary consult today.

Live amazing,
Carol

“All you need is time…and you have it…NOW.”—Neville Goddard

I Ate Raw Cookie Dough

As I was making a batch of gluten free chocolate chip cookies, I caught myself swiping my finger along the inside of the bowl.

I then proceeded to lick the raw dough from my finger. (Caution: DO NOT EAT RAW COOKIE DOUGH!)

Not long ago, I had to make a dinner selection from Five Guys on a Friday night during Lent (no meat for me). I was with a group, we had limited time, and Five Guys was it.

I did a happy dance because on the menu was a sautéed vegetable sandwich. Gluten and I are not friends, so I ordered it without the bread, along with a small order of French fries.  

Recently, I ate a bowl of ice cream after 11:00pm.

I LOVE FOOD! I’m guessing you love food too. Our lives pretty much revolve around meals, snacks, and how we choose to nourish our bodies.

In spite of what you may think, it is possible to make this food thing work to your advantage AND enjoy your life.

I’ve snitched raw cookie dough since I was about four.

The Five Guys vegetables were actually pretty good, and so were those fries.

And about that ice cream, well, it really made me happy, and it was amazing.

Feeling more confident in your body begins with eating food you love. The trick is eating–and loving–REAL, WHOLE food, and occasionally accessorizing with an amazing favorite, or whatever is available.

Starving, dieting, and feeling bad about food do not inspire you to be more confident in your body.

If you’ve got the “I’ll diet on Monday,” or the “Someday I’ll lose the weight,” mantra running in your head, what’s going to be different this time?    

Your life is happening now. I’m happy to offer you a free consult and we’ll figure it out together—accessories and all.

I’ve opened up my calendar next week, since bathing suit season is nearly upon us. Book a call with me today. CLICK HERE for my calendar

To Your Abundant Life,
Carol

“I love raw cookie dough, right out of the tube. The other thing I eat is marshmallow fluff.”—Sandra Bullock

Delay, Don’t Deny

Welcome to May, the month of lilacs, celebrating mom, and getting out the summer wardrobe.

If the mention of summer wardrobe makes you break out in a sweat, relax. We’ve got this!

I have a simple solution to help you gain confidence and improve your self-control for what you may think of as “willpower.”

A recent study on stress in America found that West Coasters report using meditation and yoga more to manage their stress. Easterners tend to drink more alcohol.  

Midwesterners, who report lower stress levels, (YAH!), are more likely to turn to family and friends than other regions.

We are also more likely to state a lack of “willpower” and confidence as factors that prevent healthy behaviors.

Here’s a trick to improve your self-control: DELAY. DON’T DENY.

Example: Let’s say you’re relaxing after dinner and your mind begins to dwell on the chocolate cake (or whatever tends to distract you) that you know is in the kitchen.

You’re trying to read and you keep hearing the little voice in your head that is shouting about the cake. You know darn well that if you go in the kitchen, it won’t be to visit the vegetable bin.

YOU FEEL CONTROLLED BY THE CHOCOLATE CAKE.

This is when you delay eating the cake. Much of the time, if we think we are hungry, we are really thirsty. BEFORE you eat the cake, pour a big glass of water and go back to what you were doing and drink it.

You can always go back and eat the AMAZING cake. The piece may be smaller than it would have been. Or, you may decide to enjoy that piece of cake tomorrow when you are not about to go to bed.

Self-control is a learned skill that improves over time. If you don’t notice much change at first, keep practicing. You will master this!    

I use this technique often in the grocery when I stumble across an item that is not the most nutritionally sound, say, dark chocolate salted caramels.

I know that if the caramels come home, I’m going to eat them. That’s when I hit the DELAY button and move on, knowing that I can always come back and put them in the cart later.

Guess what? I typically forget about them. SUCCESS!

Do I feel denied? Not at all. I feel more control in a world where we really have very little. 

Use this trick anytime you know that you will be less stressed by delaying your action.

If you’d like to learn more about living a life of abundance, while still accomplishing your health and weight goals, email me TODAY. (Don’t delay on this, since you’ll feel more stress later when you try on those summer clothes.)

Cheers,
Carol

“Self-control is one mark of a mature person; it applies to control of language, physical treatment of others, and the appetites of the body.”–Joseph B. Wirthlin

How Do You Celebrate Spring?

I find the recent arrival of spring weather to be motivating.

For example, my “To Do” list includes, and is not limited to:

  • Clear away fall leaves that keep appearing in the tulip beds
  • Prepare my vegetable garden for planting
  • Toss some pansies into a planter
  • Wash windows
  • Hang out at the park with Sophie (the dog)

This is all in addition to the regular daily stuff that happens. 

And I feel the need to get it all done NOW. Can you relate?  

My guess is that I’m not alone here. My guess is that this similar way of thinking shows up when getting (back) onboard the health and fitness train.

Yep, let’s hit the gym, cut out all the sugar and caffeine, stock the vegetable bin full of vegetables we’ve never heard of, and cut out the snacks.

All at once. All in order to wear those summer clothes that are about to make their seasonal appearance.

AGH! Does it really need to be this way?

Answer: No, it doesn’t.

Consider this: What could you do today to feel better about how you look and feel, without stressing over the process and feeling deprived?

Ideas: (Choose ONE)

  • Drink one less cup of coffee, with a little less sugar
  • Enjoy your snack of a small tossed salad instead of Oreos and milk
  • Take a short walk during your lunch break or after dinner—with your dog if you have one
  • Take your refillable water bottle with you everywhere and remember to drink the water
  • Eat your sandwich open face with only one piece of bread and extra lettuce

It is possible to enjoy your life (and food!) and get results that are impactful for you. 

Be realistic. Be honest. Be patient.

Just as I must break my spring chores down into increments, (except for going to the park with Sophie) so must you break down your health goals into smaller, achievable ones.  

If you get stuck and need help with your plan, I’m here to help. Send me an email and we’ll schedule a free strategy session to get you wearing your seasonal favorites.

Live abundantly,
Carol

 “The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” —J. Pierpont Morgan